When Did Marriage Become So Hard?

WeddingThis podcast episode is a must listen for married couples and those in a relationship. Not only is the history of marriage explored, but experts explore some of our mistakes that complicate relationships. The Fundamental Attribution Error is one of many topics. I understand myself and my marriage a lot more after listening to this episode. There is no wonder this episode is one of the most popular from the series. Everyone can benefit from this insight and how our expecations of our partners can get in the way of a fulfilling marriage/relationship. 

February 12, 2018

One Woman's Description of Living with Ovarian Cancer Amid Her Clinical Trial Treatment

FlowersI have never read a personal account about Ovarian Cancer and the life/death struggle of a life threatening illness so honest and vulnerable as Cis White's story. This is a hard article to read because it is so raw and truthful. Most of us cannot dig deep enough to get these feelings to the surface, let alone actually write about them for the public. I thank Cis for her courage as she goes through the most difficult experience of a lifetime. This article gave me a wake-up call that I need to uncover what matters in my life and appreciate the present moment. Many blessings to Cis White on her healing journey. She has given so much to our world and now this article.

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Article Written by Christine Cissy White August 23, 2022
New England Journal of Medicine

Life Is A Roller Coaster: One Ride We Shouldn't Take Alone

rollercoaster alexArticle Written by Doreen Barker
October 26, 2020

When we think of life using the metaphor of a roller coaster we can imagine the ups and downs, twists and turns, that often seem uncontrollable. However, we can make choices about how we ride life's ups and downs and how we choose to give meaning to situations. When a loved one dies, for example, we can choose to focus on the loss, or we can shift our attention to the gifts they gave us, the happy memories, the parts of them that are part of ourselves, and the reality that every one of us will transition out of our physical bodies and into eternity. This attitude doesn't mean that we don't grieve. In fact, grieving is a real and very important process of healing. But it does mean that we can create balance in our mind, body, and spirit by holding the grief while nuturing the memories and the positive meaning people have in our lives. The more we balance this self-reflective process, the more we can easily ride the rollercoaster. 

In this article, the author acknowledges the reality that life is harsh and full of ups and downs. But she also points out that we are all on this ride together and we are not meant to ride any rollercoaster alone. I hope you enjoy the read and find that it offers some perspective on how much control we have over situations despite life's twists and turns. 


Building Your Resilience

Hawk soaringPhoto credit: Scott HerschArticle Written by:
The American Psychological Association (APA) Help Center

We all face trauma, adversity and other stresses. Here’s a roadmap for adapting to life-changing situations, and emerging even stronger than before.

Imagine you’re going to take a raft trip down a river. Along with slow water and shallows, your map shows that you will encounter unavoidable rapids and turns. How would you make sure you can safely cross the rough waters and handle any unexpected problems that come from the challenge?

Perhaps you would enlist the support of more experienced rafters as you plan your route or rely on the companionship of trusted friends along the way. Maybe you would pack an extra life jacket or consider using a stronger raft. With the right tools and supports in place, one thing is sure: You will not only make it through the challenges of your river adventure. You will also emerge a more confident and courageous rafter.

What is resilience?

Life may not come with a map, but everyone will experience twists and turns, from everyday challenges to traumatic events with more lasting impact, like the death of a loved one, a life-altering accident, or a serious illness. Each change affects people differently, bringing a unique flood of thoughts, strong emotions and uncertainty. Yet people generally adapt well over time to life-changing situations and stressful situations—in part thanks to resilience.

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Attachment & the Dance of Sex

dance sexArticle Written by Dr. Sue Johnson on
March 14, 2016

Dr Sue Johnson talks about how relationships are about attachment---and good sex comes from a secure bond. Just as we are biologically wired as infants to bond to our caregivers, the same applies in intimate relationships. 

Excerpts taken from www.drsuejohnson.com. For full article, see link below

"Of course – Sex is a dance. We can show one partner a technique for how to modify their sexual response, for example by slowing down and squeezing the penis to prevent premature ejaculation, but in the end its the Between – the quality of relationship interactions that powerfully shape partners responses in and out of bed. In focusing on our individual sexuality, perhaps we forget that we are, above all, social bonding animals. Our bodies and our brains are designed to link with and resonate with others in bed and out of bed."

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Having Stress-Related Disorder Associated With Increased Risk of Developing Autoimmune Disease

autoimmune and stressThis study is ground breaking in my opinion---compiled over 30 years--it shows the connection between stress-related disorders and an increased risk for autoimmune disease.  There is a connection between stress and autoimmune! 

June 19, 2018
News releases & journal articles from the JAMA Network
Journal of the American Medical Asssocation

Bottom Line: Stress-related disorders brought on by traumatic or stressful life events were associated with increased risk of developing an autoimmune disease.

Why The Research Is Interesting: Development of stress-related disorders such as posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may influence multiple bodily systems, including immune function. Whether this contributes to risk for autoimmune disease remains unclear.

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The Biology Of Love

LoveArticle Written by Dr Bruce Lipton and Dr Deborah Sandella
July 24, 2016 www.upliftconnect.com 

What Can Our Cells Tell Us about the Importance of Love?

Dr. Bruce Lipton sat down with Dr. Deborah Sandella to reveal how cells hold profound secrets of the heart.

What do your cells have to do with love? Molecular biology and romance seem unlikely bedfellows, but according to Dr. Bruce Lipton, a stem cell biologist, bestselling author of The Biology of Belief and recipient of the 2009 Goi Peace Award, it’s quite an affair. He calls it the “Honeymoon Effect.”

Almost everyone can remember a time when they were “head-over-heels in love.” During this juicy time of life, points out Lipton, our perception of the world expands and our eyes twinkle with delight. Our affection isn’t limited to our selected partner; rather we are in love with life itself and it shows.

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